Thursday, January 16, 2014

Is it my fault as a parent (according to Proverbs 22:6), if my adult child is unfaithful to God?

Proverbs is a wonderful book! It is full of timeless statements of wisdom that are applicable even today. Proverbs is one of those books that no matter when you pick it up, you will always find a jewel or a nugget of wisdom that will help you through your day.

Because of the nature of wisdom literature (like the book of Proverbs or Psalms), you will find statements that seem contradictory, impossible, incorrect or even absurd. This is why caution must be employed when making a dogmatic conclusion from the book.

The verse under consideration in this post is (Proverbs 22:6) which reads:
Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it.
This verse should be viewed as a general truth and not an absolute rule about parenting. Parents who train up their children right, may still have a child who chooses not obey when they are older. Jesus was a the perfect teacher, but even one of His disciples betrayed Him. The general rule is if a parent is training up their child correct, that child is more likely to be faithful as an adult. 

People have free will, sometimes even those with the best parents choose to make poor decisions as adults. God gave mankind perfect instruction, but yet some men do not obey.


In conclusion, just because your child decided to not follow God as an adult, it does not always mean that you did a bad job as a parent. Some children are brought up in godless homes and become Christians as adults. On the other hand, some children have a godly upbringing and still choose to rebel as adults.

by Cliff Sabroe - Quotes from NASB95, Image from BabyBlessed.blogspot